Gaslighted

Gaslight

verb

1. manipulate (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity.

Have you ever been accused of memory loss, imagining things, being paranoid, having no sense of humour? Well, this is what gaslighter's do, they get in our heads and they plant little seeds of doubt in us by affirming to us that everything we remember never actually happened, or that we imagined the whole scenario, yet its them that seem to "forget" the sequence of events that occurred. Oh yes and not to mention the fact that they constantly remind us that we "must of been hearing things", convincing us that our memory isn't the best and dismissing our every emotion. “Why would you get upset over something so dumb” or, I bet you've heard this one before.. "You’re overreacting" as they continue to dismiss our feelings and concerns as they are unimportant. If ever you get the confidence to, they will shut you down when you try to confront their behaviour and avoid your concerns saying, “Let’s talk about that later” or ask, “Why can’t you just get over it?”, accusing you of being too emotional or sensitive, and will always downplay negative experiences saying it “Wasn’t that bad”.

Until your at the point that you question your reality, second guessing yourself; you know something is wrong but you cant figure out what.. You start to believe that there is something wrong with you, even friends and family start treating you like your crazy! As your self worth becomes less and less, and you simply just "cant do anything right", you start to depend on your abuser for that sense of reality. All of your opinions have faded into the background.. then your identity, and then your voice...

Remember you are not crazy. You are strong and powerful, love yourself, educate yourself, seek help. Help is out there, you are NOT alone sister.